What is a healthy relationship? And how do I go about creating one?
The first ingredient to a healthy relationship is trust and the only way to have trust, is to be honest. Hiding your feelings, pretending to be ok, creates distrust for both humans and horses.
Mutual respect means that you value who the other is and understand the other being’s boundaries.
Understanding. As a responsible partner we need to take time to understand what the horse may be feeling. We need to listen, to support and to be present for what's unfolding in our work and time together.
You have different needs and desires, try to find a balance of both.
A - Authenticity
What is authenticity? And how do I get there?
Definition of authentic- “not false or copied; genuine; real.” And, my favorite definition, “representing one’s true nature or beliefs; true to oneself or to the person identified.”
Authenticity is about presence, living in the moment with conviction and confidence and staying true to yourself.
Being authentic may be scary as it demands that we allow ourselves to be vulnerable, but...
“Vulnerability is the birthplace of innovation, creativity and change.”- Brené Brown
How do you know if you are being effective? And how do you get more effective?
Clear communication is the key. Often times we give an aid but our thoughts or feelings are communicating something different. To be effective we need to be aware of what is happening in our internal world and adjust accordingly.
We also need to understand the language of the horse and communicate in a way that they understand and respect.
Harmony Horsemanship™ has developed a great system for effective communication based on how the herd "talks" to one another.
L - Leadership
How do you become a leader? And what kind of leader do you want to be?
Leadership can come from two places, intimidation and inspiration. When we lead through intimidation, we are using fear to get a desired result. This often happens when we are feeling scared and unsure of ourselves.
To lead using inspiration, we need to feel confident in our abilities and trust that we can handle the situation we are in.
Great leaders are not born, they are made.